Hello, everyone! It’s been a while, hasn’t it? Jane here, and I can hardly believe it’s already November. The holidays are just around the corner, and 2018 is nearly over—where did the year go? As we start making plans to reconnect with friends and family over holiday cider (a personal favorite that I finally learned how to make a couple of years ago) or perhaps some wine (another favorite, of course), one conversation that seems to continually come up is the role of women in the workplace.

Let’s pause and take a serious moment to reflect on the ongoing discussions around women in the workforce.

A Personal Journey: From Women’s Studies to the Workforce

A little backstory about me: I’ve been working and earning my own money since I was 15. From my college waitressing days to my current role as Editorial Director for The Chriselle Factor, I’ve always found myself in predominantly female environments—whether it was in beauty, fashion, or fashion-tech. I’ve always been the type of person who surrounds herself with strong, supportive women.

Interestingly, when I attended UCI for my BA in Women’s Studies, I was often met with skepticism. Many, especially men, would scoff at my degree choice. “What are you going to do with that degree?” they’d ask. “Are you going to become a lawyer? Do you realize law is still a boys’ club?” The comments were frustrating, but I had one amazing professor—Professor Kim—who truly inspired me.

Professor Kim was everything I aspired to be: confident, articulate, strong, and unapologetically intelligent. Her teaching style, which relied on verbal exams rather than written tests, was a true eye-opener. She encouraged us to speak up, to voice our thoughts, and to back them up with solid arguments. She instilled in me the belief that in the real world, your voice matters, and your ideas deserve to be heard.

Fast forward to today, and I’m now in the best job I’ve ever had. Having a female boss who is not only a minority but also someone who creates her own path is empowering. It’s incredibly uplifting to be surrounded by a group of women who support and encourage one another rather than compete. Unfortunately, this sense of community isn’t always the norm. Why is that?

Women in the Workplace: The Struggles We Face

Throughout my career, I’ve often found myself in corporate environments where women were pitted against one another. There were female bosses who suppressed my ambitions, leaving me frustrated and resentful. I began to wonder: was I being too hard on these women? Was I expecting more from them just because they were women? Would things have been different if my boss were a man?

More often than not, when I did something well, my female boss would take the credit, offering only the faintest recognition. I couldn’t help but ask myself, why was this happening? Why didn’t my female boss encourage me or lift me up? It’s a tough question. But ultimately, leaders—regardless of gender—should inspire, motivate, and nurture the growth of those around them.

It’s all too common to encounter double standards: when women are strong-willed or competitive, they’re labeled as “bitchy” or “too emotional,” but when men display the same traits, they’re seen as “assertive” or “strong.” Why is there such a stark difference in perception? Why should women be expected to be meek, silent, or agreeable to avoid being seen as hostile? Let’s challenge these narratives.

The Need for Support, Not Suppression

One of the most damaging aspects of the workplace is the perception that there isn’t enough success to go around. This “scarcity mentality” makes women feel like they need to suppress one another in order to secure their own position. But there’s another way—a better way.

What if, instead of competing, we supported each other? What if women in positions of power used their influence to lift others up rather than hold them down? What if we made it a point to help those around us succeed, especially women who might not have the same opportunities we’ve had?

It’s time to change the conversation. Women should be helping each other, whether that’s offering advice, making introductions, or simply listening when someone needs to talk. Support doesn’t always have to be transactional. It’s about being genuine, showing up for each other, and creating a culture of empowerment.

Supporting Each Other in the Workplace

What does support in the workplace look like? Sometimes it’s as simple as a coffee date or a casual lunch with a fellow woman, particularly a minority woman who may need guidance or advice. Other times, it’s helping someone with their resume or connecting them with opportunities they wouldn’t have had access to otherwise.

We can all be leaders in this regard. Whether it’s through providing mentorship, advocating for women’s rights, or donating to women-led organizations, there are countless ways we can support each other. Prioritize kindness, and don’t get bogged down by gossip or negativity.

Personally, I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have a group of girlfriends who are fiercely supportive. We are each other’s sounding board, and when one of us faces a challenge, we show up for each other. It’s a space where we feel empowered to speak our truth and lift each other up. Not everyone has that, and it’s something I truly value.

Creating a Stronger Future Together

While the road to equality in the workplace has been long and filled with obstacles, we’ve made significant progress. We’ve come a long way, but there’s still more work to do. It’s up to all of us—whether you’re a woman in a leadership role or someone still finding your footing—to continue pushing for change, speaking up for ourselves and others, and fostering an environment of solidarity and empowerment.

As we continue to break down barriers and support each other, let’s remember: There’s enough room for all of us to succeed. By lifting each other up, we create a workplace that celebrates strength, diversity, and mutual respect. The more we help each other, the stronger we all become.

Here’s to strong women. May we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.

And lastly, don’t forget: use your voice. Exercise your privilege to vote, and ensure that we keep pushing forward—together.

The fashion industry, long celebrated for its artistry and innovation, remains entangled in a paradox. While strides toward inclusivity are evident—runways featuring diverse models, brands championing unretouched campaigns—the journey toward true representation is far from complete. For every step forward, countless individuals still find themselves sidelined, feeling “too big” or “too in-between” for an industry clinging to outdated ideals. Two voices from within the trenches, Laura and Jane, offer raw insights into this struggle, proving that the fight for self-acceptance is as personal as it is universal.

Laura’s Journey: The “In-Between” Body in a Binary World

Laura, a seasoned Director of Operations with over a decade in fashion, embodies resilience. Rising from intern to leadership, her career trajectory mirrors the industry’s evolution—yet her relationship with her body tells a different story. Standing at 5’1” with curves that defy sample sizes and plus-size categories, Laura occupies what she calls the “in-between”—a space where fashion’s limited sizing fails her.

“A fitted dress that looks chic on a straight-size model transforms into a hyper-sexualized costume on me,” she explains. This reality, compounded by an industry that often equates curves with controversy, forced Laura to confront a lifetime of internalized criticism. “We’re socialized from childhood to prioritize ‘looking good,’ but whose definition of ‘good’ are we using?”

Her path to self-acceptance involved dismantling these ingrained beliefs. On days when insecurity strikes—whether at a star-studded event or while scrolling social media—Laura practices radical self-awareness. “I acknowledge the envy or doubt, then ask: Is this narrative serving me?” By reframing her focus inward—celebrating her achievements, values, and authenticity—she cultivates confidence that transcends physical appearance. “I’ve approved of myself,” she asserts. “That’s the foundation no industry can shake.”

Jane’s Truth: Health, Happiness, and the Myth of the “Perfect” Body

Jane, an Editorial Director and self-proclaimed “life maximizer,” champions unapologetic self-love—a philosophy hard-won through her own battles with body image. A period of relentless stress led to weight gain, a transformation that left her estranged from her reflection. “I sought comfort in tacos and wine, then punished myself for it,” she recalls.

Rejecting quick fixes (“No dumb diets or juice cleanses here”), Jane embraced balance: workouts paired with chocolate, salads alongside wine. Yet societal pressures persist. “Fashion’s billboards and Instagram feeds scream that beauty is synonymous with thinness,” she notes. “But those models’ job is to look a certain way. Comparing ourselves to them is like envying a fish for swimming.”

For Jane, empowerment lies in rejecting external validation. “Beautiful humans aren’t defined by measurements,” she insists. “Confidence is the ultimate accessory.” She advocates for practical defiance: supporting size-inclusive brands, demanding better from retailers, and logging off when digital perfection feels suffocating. “A digital detox isn’t retreat—it’s rebellion.”

The Shared Struggle: Industry Illusions and the Power of Choice

Both women highlight fashion’s lingering hypocrisy. While brands like Savage x Fenty and Glossier celebrate diverse bodies, many still cater to a narrow spectrum. This dissonance leaves countless individuals feeling alienated, amplifying insecurities. Social media, a double-edged sword, exacerbates the issue—curating flawless feeds that distort reality.

“Retouching is a multi-billion-dollar industry,” Jane remarks. “When even models don’t look like their photos, why hold ourselves to that standard?” Laura echoes this, urging women to prioritize substance over silhouette. “I want to know what you think, not just how you look. That’s where real connection begins.”

Toward a New Fashion Narrative

The solution, they argue, lies in collective action and self-compassion. Laura’s mantra—“Carve your own path”—resonates with Jane’s call to “embrace the cheeseburger and the love handles.” Their stories underscore a shared truth: true inclusivity requires dismantling systems and rebuilding self-worth.

For readers navigating similar battles, their advice is clear:

1. Interrogate Negative Self-Talk: Ask, Who benefits from me feeling this way?
2. Celebrate Non-Physical Attributes: Define yourself by passions, values, and intellect.
3. Vote with Your Wallet: Support brands that prioritize inclusivity; challenge those that don’t.
4. Embrace Fluidity: Bodies change. Joy, however, is constant.

Conclusion: Beauty Beyond the Tape Measure

The fashion industry’s transformation hinges on voices like Laura’s and Jane’s—voices that challenge norms while extending grace to themselves and others. As Jane wisely notes, “Your confidence is what makes you beautiful. Sexy has no size.”

In a world eager to profit from insecurity, choosing self-love becomes an act of defiance. So, let’s redefine “too big for fashion” as “too powerful to conform.” After all, the most revolutionary trend isn’t a hemline or a hue—it’s the audacity to be unapologetically yourself.

​Lymphatic drainage massage has recently surged in popularity, with numerous individuals showcasing impressive before-and-after transformations on social media. This growing interest prompts a deeper exploration into what lymphatic drainage entails, its benefits, and how one might incorporate its principles into a personal wellness routine.​

Understanding the Lymphatic System

The lymphatic system is an extensive network of vessels and nodes that plays a pivotal role in maintaining the body’s fluid balance and immune defense. It transports lymph—a clear fluid containing white blood cells—throughout the body, facilitating the removal of toxins and waste products. When this system functions optimally, it helps prevent swelling, supports immune responses, and maintains overall health. However, factors such as illness, sedentary lifestyles, or certain medical treatments can impede lymph flow, leading to fluid retention and a compromised immune system.

The Essence of Lymphatic Drainage Massage

Lymphatic drainage massage is a gentle therapeutic technique designed to stimulate the flow of lymph through the body. By employing light, rhythmic strokes, this massage encourages the movement of lymph fluid toward the lymph nodes, where toxins can be processed and eliminated. Unlike traditional massages that focus on muscle manipulation, lymphatic drainage targets the skin’s surface to enhance lymph flow without applying deep pressure.

Why Consider Lymphatic Drainage?

An efficiently functioning lymphatic system is crucial for overall well-being. When lymph flow is compromised, it can result in symptoms such as swelling (particularly in the limbs), fatigue, and a feeling of heaviness. By promoting lymph movement, lymphatic drainage massage can alleviate these symptoms, leading to improved energy levels and reduced discomfort.

Potential Benefits of Lymphatic Drainage Massage

Engaging in lymphatic drainage massage may offer several health and aesthetic benefits, including:​

Reduction of Swelling and Puffiness: By facilitating the removal of excess fluid, this massage can decrease bloating and edema, leading to a more contoured appearance.

Enhanced Immune Function: Stimulating lymph flow supports the body’s natural defense mechanisms, potentially reducing the frequency of infections.

Improved Skin Tone and Texture: Increased circulation from the massage can contribute to healthier, more radiant skin. ​

Relief from Chronic Conditions: Individuals suffering from conditions like fibromyalgia or rheumatoid arthritis may experience symptom relief due to the gentle nature of the massage and its promotion of fluid balance.

Incorporating Lymphatic Drainage into Your Routine

While professional lymphatic drainage massages are available, there are also methods to support lymphatic health at home:​

Deep Breathing Exercises: Engaging in slow, deep breaths can help stimulate lymph flow, as the movement of the diaphragm aids in lymphatic circulation.

Self-Massage Techniques: Using gentle, sweeping motions with relaxed hands can encourage lymph movement. It’s important to use light pressure and follow the natural direction of lymph flow, typically toward the heart. ​

Dry Brushing: This involves using a dry, natural-bristle brush to lightly stroke the skin, usually before bathing. Starting from the feet and moving upward toward the heart can stimulate the lymphatic system and exfoliate the skin. ​

Regular Physical Activity: Exercise promotes muscle contractions, which in turn facilitate lymph movement throughout the body. ​

Dietary and Lifestyle Considerations

Supporting lymphatic health extends beyond massage techniques. Maintaining a balanced diet rich in leafy greens, herbs, and citrus fruits can promote lymph flow. Staying well-hydrated is essential, as lymph is primarily composed of water. Additionally, regular physical activity and proper posture can prevent fluid buildup and encourage efficient lymph circulation. ​

When to Seek Professional Guidance

While at-home practices can be beneficial, consulting with a certified therapist is advisable, especially for individuals with existing health conditions or those recovering from surgery. Professionals can provide tailored treatments and ensure that techniques are performed safely and effectively. ​

Conclusion

Lymphatic drainage massage offers a gentle yet effective approach to enhancing the body’s natural detoxification processes. By understanding and supporting the lymphatic system through various techniques and lifestyle choices, individuals can experience benefits ranging from reduced swelling to improved overall well-being. As with any health practice, it’s important to listen to your body and seek professional advice when necessary to ensure the best outcomes.​